How can I ask a grown man (a patient), in Creole, if he has gone to the bathroom without feeling like I'm talking to a child? In Creole, when I say "Eske ou te kaka?", I feel like I'm talking to a child?

You could say ale alasèl.

have a bowel movement → ale alasèl

Have you had a bowel movement today?
Eske w te ale alasèl jodia?

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